tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5150446611481594337.post7404193347959930649..comments2024-03-03T12:12:52.365-06:00Comments on Confessions of an Evil Stepmother: Yes it is. No it's not. Yes it IS!Evil Stepmotherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11525436680625532471noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5150446611481594337.post-8126390668130829262011-08-06T23:33:07.539-05:002011-08-06T23:33:07.539-05:00It gets worse and it gets better. When my stepdaug...It gets worse and it gets better. When my stepdaughter was in middle school, it seemed like she was all mouth and up to fight all the time. Then she and her mother had a HUGE fight and they didn't see each other for almost 2 years. We are super close - her dad has full physical custody - and now she is 17. She knows who has her best interests at heart all the time. We still argue and sometimes it gets ugly but an hour later she'll be asking for a hug and everything is great again. That's just the tip of the iceberg, of course, but the long and short of it is that we are close enough to openly disagree. And that is a good thing.Beccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10138200886883885114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5150446611481594337.post-49545228521388156902011-08-04T16:49:24.274-05:002011-08-04T16:49:24.274-05:00I am constantly arguing with my 11yr old too! Ever...I am constantly arguing with my 11yr old too! Everything I say she says or does the opposite. One day we were in the car backing out of the driveway and I said "Oh, Look at the bird on the driveway eating the worm!" She looks as we are now about 50+ feet way and says "That is not a worm it is a caterpiller!" Are you freaking kidding me! Now I just keep my mouth shut and have been trying so hard to just ignore all of the little stuff. :)Anita @ Mommy in Search of Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16691844515062993056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5150446611481594337.post-61055429910213877882011-07-28T22:48:32.860-05:002011-07-28T22:48:32.860-05:00Welcome to Iowa! I say that with a very exaggerate...Welcome to Iowa! I say that with a very exaggerated eye roll. I am not happy about STILL having to live in this place. <br />I'm a mom, blogger, teacher, wine drinker, and wanderlust. I enjoyed your post on MommyLand. I am in love with that site!<br />I just wanted to tell you that You.Are.Awesome.<br />I am part of a blended family, too. I have 2 daughters, 7 and 2. My oldest daughter, who we'll *affectionately* call Butt Nugget, was barely 9 months old when her dad and I split. I had NO intention of getting into a serious relationship any time soon, but stumbled upon the love of my life a few months later. He is the half brother of my sister's husband. Yeah. Let that digest a bit.<br />Loooonnnnggg story short, we have an AWESOME family! It was my number one priority that we all act like a family and get along. So my parents invite Ex over for holidays, I send photos to Ex's folks in Arkansas, me and Ex's new wife text and coordinate our schedules, and me and Ex keep it positive and compatible at all times. <br />Since before Butt Nugget could even talk, she was being told how lucky she was to have two dads that loved her so much. And know what? She believes that. And so do I. My husband is an incredible (step) parent. And I appreciate it more than I can say. My daughter is SO lucky.<br />My husband's family has loved and cherished my oldest daughter as if she was their own flesh and blood from the moment we started dating. My kids have so many grandparents, aunts, uncles, "cousins"... and it's amazing!!!<br /><br />Your kids are SO LUCKY to have an amazing (step) mom like you. It's tough. REALLY tough. Thank you for doing an amazing job at something you may have never really set out to do. I wish you nothing but the best in your endeavor and quest to grow your family!<br /><br />I do my own blogging, about food. dinnertimeninja.blogspot<br /><br />Us Iowa moms have to stick together!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15267140038378003207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5150446611481594337.post-50994205118109218552011-07-28T19:35:09.639-05:002011-07-28T19:35:09.639-05:00I definitely just say "uh huh" to my alm...I definitely just say "uh huh" to my almost 16 yo when I want to argue. It keeps the peace and saves my "mom" arguing power for when I really need it.Raedynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14681357245941918895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5150446611481594337.post-89950560268891141232011-07-28T18:22:01.713-05:002011-07-28T18:22:01.713-05:00I wish you guys could see how nerdily excited I ge...I wish you guys could see how nerdily excited I get whenever I read your comments. Thanks again!Evil Stepmotherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11525436680625532471noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5150446611481594337.post-15998472529798159082011-07-28T17:21:02.441-05:002011-07-28T17:21:02.441-05:00Can I just say i am SO HAPPY to have found this bl...Can I just say i am SO HAPPY to have found this blog and can relate to pretty much everything! Thank you!Kristinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5150446611481594337.post-82428468635314320082011-07-28T12:24:52.917-05:002011-07-28T12:24:52.917-05:00The best thing I read is from Love and Logic where...The best thing I read is from Love and Logic where you are supposed to say "I love you too much for argue." Sure that sounds fine on paper, but by golly when my 6 year old step son "raspy" argues that he's never been to Waco even though we went there for a wedding for a weekend, it's all I can do not to get in to the "yes huh" "nu uh" argument and regress back to childhood. I know your pain!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5150446611481594337.post-62885306331979478682011-07-28T11:14:54.516-05:002011-07-28T11:14:54.516-05:00My boys are 16 & 18 and if I actually listened...My boys are 16 & 18 and if I actually listened to the crazy stuff they say I would go mad. Instead I say "uh-huh" and a lot of times i say "What?" Repeating things keep them busy and I am still not listening.<br />Pick your battles is the first commandment of parenting. Believe me there are sooo many more battles to come! lolShelliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17174831973030737544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5150446611481594337.post-9644367548687849122011-07-28T09:41:11.174-05:002011-07-28T09:41:11.174-05:00I do that all the time with all 4 of my boys and w...I do that all the time with all 4 of my boys and when we get my other 2 bonus babies...same thing!!!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11639746081958978565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5150446611481594337.post-72904547492987807792011-07-28T07:55:11.531-05:002011-07-28T07:55:11.531-05:00I hear you.... I fight with my almost 4 yo for so...I hear you.... I fight with my almost 4 yo for so dumb stuff that at the end I ask my self "does this really matter?" I lately had achieved to stop myself and just say "mmmhhmm " But I discover I was relieving my stress with her.. Fighting with her. as I didn't have to much adult conversation around. Husband arriving really late, And I staying here surrounded by therapist that just come with my son and an almost 4 yo that argues everything... <br /><br />I guess I just got tired of the lack of logic of her mind..been myself a complete logic control freak I guess it was that. <br /><br />HUGS! ( can't imagine my girl been 11 if at 4 she is like a teen already...)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com