I decided to start this blog because I am addicted to mommy blogs, but feel somewhat unrepresented in this world. Where are the step mommy blogs? My life as a stepmom of 2 is just as crazy/hilarious/fun/frustrating as any "real" mom's. So here goes nothing. I have NO idea how to write a blog and even less of an idea of how to be a good stepmom, but I'll do the best I can.
I have lived with my 2 kids since May 2007 so it irritates me when someone asks me when I'm going to have "my own" kids. I've been helping to raise them for over 4 years. How long did it take you to fall in love with your kids? Less than 4 years? That's what I thought.
So, they ARE my kids. Even if I didn't give birth to them and they only live in my house 50% of the time.
This question is even more heartbreaking due to the fact that my husband and I have been trying to have a baby for 9 months. I carried one child for 7 weeks before I miscarried. Sad? Yes. Definitely. Devastating is a better word. But I was able to put the loss in perspective because of my 2 other kids. I'd rather lose a 7 week old fetus than either one of the other kids, even if they aren't my flesh and blood. I'd rather die myself than lose either one of them.
So, please stop asking me (or any other stepmom) when I am going to have "my own" kids. I already have 2, and my entire life revolves around them.