Thursday, July 7, 2011

Introducing the (mostly not) Evil Stepmother

I decided to start this blog because I am addicted to mommy blogs, but feel somewhat unrepresented in this world. Where are the step mommy blogs? My life as a stepmom of 2 is just as crazy/hilarious/fun/frustrating as any "real" mom's. So here goes nothing. I have NO idea how to write a blog and even less of an idea of how to be a good stepmom, but I'll do the best I can.

I have lived with my 2 kids since May 2007 so it irritates me when someone asks me when I'm going to have "my own" kids. I've been helping to raise them for over 4 years. How long did it take you to fall in love with your kids? Less than 4 years? That's what I thought.

So, they ARE my kids. Even if I didn't give birth to them and they only live in my house 50% of the time.

This question is even more heartbreaking due to the fact that my husband and I have been trying to have a baby for 9 months. I carried one child for 7 weeks before I miscarried. Sad? Yes. Definitely. Devastating is a better word. But I was able to put the loss in perspective because of my 2 other kids. I'd rather lose a 7 week old fetus than either one of the other kids, even if they aren't my flesh and blood. I'd rather die myself than lose either one of them.

So, please stop asking me (or any other stepmom) when I am going to have "my own" kids. I already have 2, and my entire life revolves around them.

10 comments:

  1. fellow step mom following your blog :)

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  2. My first comment ever! Yay! Welcome. :)

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  3. Yay, "real mommy" here, I just read your entire blog in one sitting and can't wait for more. You're definitely right - nobody gets to presume to tell you how you feel about your kids. Biological or not, you're their mommy! Can't wait to read more.

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  4. Hi there! I heard about your blog from some SM friends on Facebook. I love it so far and can't wait to read more. I am also one of those rare birds where my SD is my life. No other kids needed, thank you very much. Love hearing more from this perspective.

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  5. Found you via Rants from Mommyland...enjoyed reading all of your blog just now. You have a knack! Love that your a Step Mom and giving your original view on Mommy Life even though it's not SO different than every other Mother really (well, except for First Wife and The Schedule). Great stuff!

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  6. I'm so honored to have comments! I really never thought anyone would read this. Thanks for your support guys!

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  7. Hi there!
    Just came from Mommyland and find your writing very entertaining. I have 2 teeanage boys who are good kids but drive me insane. I cannot blog about them because computer wise they are way smarter than I am and the stuff would hit the fan!
    Love your writing, keep it up. Funny and fun to read about your prospective..

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  8. You are awesome... I married a wonderful gal who became the stopmom of our kiddos (yes, they are ours, not mine) and I think she would agree with you on every point... :)

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  9. Found you through Rants as well. Fellow stepmom and feel less alone in my situation reading your blog. I too searched for Stepmom blogs and came up short. None of my friends are stepmoms and while they are huge support for me, it's just not the same if you aren't going through it! They acknowledge that as well. Keep em coming! Thanks for writing!

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  10. I found you through Mommyland as well. I've been married to my husband for 2 1/2 years and have 3 stepkids 18, 14, and 11. The 14 year old just came to live with us very abruptly, and I've been looking for stepmom support now more than ever. I blog about it sometimes, but my blog is much less topical, mainly due to tensions within our circle that I don't feel I can air in a public forum. Thank you for writing!

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